What are you afraid of and fear in life? Have you ever wondered why that makes you afraid? Could it be that your reaction would never be justified if you got down to the truth of the matter? Do “The Work” on your greatest fear. Ask the question, “Is it true?” Work step by step and use this process. Then turn it around. Are you fearful because the situation or are you fearful simply because that is how you react naturally?

We all make quick judgements of what we see and experience. Far too often our judgement is wrong. Far too often we jump to conclusions way too fast. Far too often we let the situation affect us before even knowing the truth. Perception is reality. One might be taking notes on their phone at a conference, but to everyone else, it looks as if they are checked out and texting the entire time. Isn’t it funny that we judge ourselves on our intentions, but we judge others by the outcome. Get to know the truth behind the situation. Learn the intentions of others before you make that judgement and react.

The reality is, you can not control or change reality. Don’t try either because you will lose when you argue with reality. It is what it is. Learn how to make the best of it. The only thing you can control is how you chose to respond and react to the situation. Bad situations are going to happen in life because we live in a broken world. The question is how do you learn to love what is. The exercise of “The Work” reveals the deepest beliefs and shows the point of misunderstandings. Set yourself free through digging deeper and questioning your judgement on the reality.

Even in the little things try to change your mentality from “I have to…” to “We get to…” Often times, when we become the victim of a situation and have stress, it is because we look at the situation selfishly and take everything personally. Take the opportunity to make every single event as just that, an opportunity. We get the opportunity to change our reality of the situation and our judgement.  

“There is no lemon so sour that you can’t make something representing lemonade.”