Your life is whatever image that you project it to be. You may not be able to control the situation but it is up to you to change your responses and judgment to that situation. How you see things and interpret situations is how you perceive problems. Have you ever thought about how the misperception of a situation affects your life? It is so easy to get caught up in all the feels and stressful situations. Some problems pull you to the bottom of the ocean and where you are left without any oxygen. It is fatal if you sit at the bottom with your problems for too long. Take a step back to find the truth of the situation. There is always something that can be done or another way to handle a situation. Make a habit of looking at yourself compared to blaming everyone else and the situation.

“The pain shows you what’s left to investigate.”

One of the examples Byron Katie uses is having lint on a projector’s lens. We often only look at the big issue on the screen and try to fix it when in reality it is just the tiniest piece of lint projected into something big. How long do you sit in the issues looking at the screen when we never look inwards at how we are projecting it. Change your own mind on the issue and clear your lens. The analogy also is great in the fact that the lint can be so tiny but if you let it stay on the lens then it projects into something way bigger than it ever was in the first place or ever will be. The noises of this world are loud. Do you let the noise be positive or negative? There is a beauty that can be found in every brokenness. Do you choose to search for it or do we ignore it? Look at how you are viewing every situation and do the work through it. Make sure your response is appropriate and true.  

“Self-realization is not complete until it lives in action.”

This concept of looking inwards is beneficial in every relationship. When you get down to the root of what is happening often perspectives are different and that is where the issue occurs not because of the action going on. Byron Katie asks an import question: Whose business are you in? There is your business, someone else’s business, and God’s business. The majority of stress comes from not living in your own business. When you get into someone else’s or God’s business there is nothing you can control. You can not control how someone else is going to act. You sure can’t control God’s plan. Realizing that you can only control your own business is the only place where you can actually make a difference and work. Why do we tend to waste our time on other people’s business? Along the same time, we need to accept others for who they are.