TURNING IT AROUND

The set of turning situations around after asking the four questions replace every negative emotion. This is looking forward to what life could be without any fear. We have to believe it before we can see it. Identify the truth.

The power of inquiry leads to a service mentality of how can I help. Attitude shifts from I wonder if they are mad at me... to I am listening to you. From confusion to I understand you. From questioning relationships... to I love our time together. From I don’t ever want to... to I am willing to. This experience helps define your personal identity.

With a recurring situation, after the four questions, it is now time to turn it around. Find specific examples of how each turnaround is true.

1. To the self.

2. To the other.

3. To the opposite.

Example: My kids don’t listen to me.

1. I don’t listen to myself.

2. I don’t listen to my kids.

3. My kids do listen to me.

Our team really found the worksheet beneficial to see this process work in action. Take the time to fill out the worksheet and meditate on the specific situation and that moment in time. Answer if it is true with a yes or no. Question the judgments on the worksheet and find the truth in every situation. That person has not changed but your identity and the judgment on the situation has changed. This system helps identify and question the judgment that creates all the suffering in your life.

Let go of what you can not control and don’t get caught up in what other people do or say. Only focus on what you can control. Your response is the big difference between the outcome of the situation. We typically want to change the outside environment and other people but we are not focusing on our own consciousness. It will also be how you are perceiving the situation. You always have a choice on how you will respond.

Don’t argue with reality… Embrace what is.